What seems like common sense or basic knowledge to you, is a potential treasure trove for someone else.
On our second coaching call, I explained to a client (let’s call him Charles) about how almost all of us in the Western world are conditioned from a Do-Have-Be model.
Do this, Have that, Be happy.
For example, workout alot, get an amazing body, and then and only then you’ll be happy. Or find the right person, get that amazing relationship and then you’ll be complete.
I explained how there’s no long-term fulfillment in that way of living. That a much better one is Be-Do-Have.
Be happy, then you can Do whatever you want, and Have it. Or not.
Your fulfillment isn’t tied to doing or having. Not to say one shouldn’t workout and have a great body, make lots of money, or be in a relationship – but that none of those things bring fulfillment, at the end of the day.
Not to mention other benefits to getting results when we come from well-being and the kind of more relaxed flow-states this approach can bring.
I explained all of this as clearly as I could to Charles. At this point in my life, Be-Do-Have to me is Personal Development 101.
But for him this was to become life-changing, so I slowed down and explained it. Nothing shifted for him on the call per say that day.
Here’s what Charles sent me the next day:
“I was out for a walk this evening when the “be-do-have” principle that you mentioned hit me like some kind of divine revelation. It instantly changed my entire life.”
Honestly, Charles having insight into it reinvigorated this for me, too. This is where as a coach you sometimes get blown away that you get paid for this kind of work, because your client having insight enlivens you, and wakes you up even more to what you already know, but often in a deeper way, or seeing another level or layer of it.
As my original coach trainer Julio Olalla would more-or-less say “in a conversation we change together. To con-verse means to “change together.” We become one.”
When we spoke the next day, Charles said he was feeling freer than he had in years, like layers were shedding off with just this insight alone.
To me this was common knowledge, to him it was life-changing. Don’t underestimate what you know and the impact it can have on someone.
Here’s a question if you are willing to play:
What is it that you know, that just seems like common knowledge that could be very valuable or an amazing gift for someone else?
And if you are interested to have life changing insights to have next level success and satisfaction in work and life, you can find out about coaching with me here.