Do You Have An “Upper Limit” Problem?

It’s easy to feel bad when things in life aren’t going our way, especially if we haven’t practiced emotional control, or are encountering an intense situation we haven’t dealt with before.

But what about when things are going good.

Like really, really good? Is it possible that we’ll make ourselves feel bad because things are going too well, or we’re feeling too good?

Gay Hendrix therapist, coach and author of The Big Leap says, yes.

He says he’s seen it time and time again with people at all levels of success.

Here’s a video I made on the very topic, explaining the very nature of the Upper Limit Problem as outlined by Hendrix.

(Please excuse the YouTube-y talk in the video).

I’m curious to know if you have experienced it for yourself.

I know I have, especially when it’s come to relationships in the past, when things were too good with a woman I was dating, I would find a way to sabotage it and create a rift in our relationship.

Lately I’ve been taking more time to look at how I self-sabotage relationships, so I don’t keep repeating the same pattern, that no longer serves me.

But really it could show up in any area of your life.

Give the video a watch, and let me know in the comments below if you’ve had any experiencing in dealing with the upper limit problem, in certain areas of your life, or maybe the whole thing at once.


  1. Joshua M. says:

    Most definitely been there, done that. Several times, and identifying it helps with avoiding repeating that. Had friend point it out to me one time. That’s a good friend.

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